Hey, Lovelies!

It’s been a min. Huh? Well, let me take the time to first say I hope ya’ll are doing well during the madness that is COVID-19. It’s been a crazy ride, and I am READY TO GET OFF, but that’s not the topic of discussion. From the title, I sure you were wondering what kind of help I received, and I’m talking about THERAPY. Yes, I now go to therapy, and I LOVE IT.

Let me begin by saying I should’ve considered therapy a LONG time ago. Probably after my parent’s divorce would’ve been the most opportune time to go, but I didn’t. To be completely transparent, I had that mentality many people from the Black community have/had. Therapy was “for crazy people,” how could someone who didn’t know me help me, I don’t want to tell a stranger my business, the list goes on. In the past year or so, I told myself I was finally going. I was going to find a therapist and take the leap. Yea, That didn’t happen immediately. I sat on it for quite some time, actually. I continued to go back and forth with myself to determine if I actually NEEDED it. I felt like I did really well with self -reflection and distinguishing where exactly my trauma stemmed from. So to me, the idea of someone else telling me when I had it figured out was unnecessary … so I thought.

For starters, therapy is nothing I thought it would be. I didn’t go in with a huge expectation and had regular nervousness. Still, it has indeed been an eyeopening journey thus far. I have gained a more in-depth understanding of how and why I think the way I do, the way I move, and currently, the way I value friendship. There is going to be so much to unpack as time goes on, and honestly, I’m excited. For so long, I dealt with constant overthinking, mild anxiety, and lack of understanding of how I react to particular things. The goal for me is to simply fix it. Train my way of thinking to assist in my decision making, and the way I approach things.I know it’s a long journey ahead, and everything won’t be fixed overnight, but as I move into year 30, I needed to set my mind, body, and spirit for this new chapter.

As we near the end of mental health month, I felt it was very appropriate to bring this topic to light. I DEFINITELY encourage those who have been on the fence about therapy to really consider it. The experience and sense of understanding you receive is everything. The last thing, don’t be discouraged if you run into a therapist you’re not vibing with. Initially, I was going to go with a different lady. I think God knew who I needed because mine is AMAZING. It may take once or twice to get it right, but that matters, remember that.

Do you go to therapy, What do you love about it?

Are you on the fence? What’s stopping you?

Let me know in the comments!